Orgasm: Important Things you Must Know

 

According to a recent  Time immemorial, the issue of not having an orgasm during sex is very popular amongst women survey, only 57% of women usually have orgasms when they have sex with a partner. The survey also showed that more than 2,300 women ages 18 to 40, captures what a lot of women are realizing about their orgasms: There are still clear obstacles standing between women and the pleasure they deserve......... 

According to Connections.mic, this problem has however been traced to Mechanical issues in women. Yes, simple as it may sound, many women’s orgasm problems can be said to be as a result of bad mechanics. While fifty percent of women said their partners were almost there but just couldn’t quite ‘bring them home’,  thirty-eight percent of women claimed there wasn’t enough clitoral stimulation, and 35% of women said they weren’t getting the right kind of clitoral stimulation.

These stats are unsurprising when you realize how essential the clitoris is in helping a woman achieve orgasm. While percentages are hard to pin down, experts say most women need to have their clitoris stimulated in order to orgasm; and yet the clit remains a mysterious body part. It is a mysterious part because in a 2005 study of 833 undergraduate students, women and men were just as likely to mislabel the clitoris on a diagram. Well, this is to drive home the points that having a better knowledge of the ‘parts’ can indeed help the mechanics.

A 2014 study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that lesbian women orgasm about 75% of the time during sex with a consistent partner. Notice how high that is? The researchers concluded that homosexual women are more comfortable with their bodies and their partners’, and thus able to achieve orgasm more easily, as reported by Mic’s Erin Brodwin.

However, it has been made known that by physical relaxation, things can be helped. According to the Cosmo survey, 32% of women are getting caught up in their own head and getting focused on how they look in bed instead of being in tune with the ongoing sex.

It is very important to note that the responsibility for pleasure is not on one partner, but rather on both. “Chances are, people aren’t communicating in bed about what works for them,” Michelle Ruiz, senior editor at Cosmopolitan, told Mic. So the great question is, ‘how are women actually achieving orgasm, if they’re not always coming from their partners?’ Often, it’s on their own. The survey found that 39% of women reach most of their orgasms through use of a hand or sex toy.

“Don’t just expect someone to magically know how to please you,” said Ruiz. “Champion your own orgasm as well! Experiment on your own and find out what turns you on, so you can let a partner know. Then, let a partner know.”

Remember, sexual enjoyment and climaxing is in men’s and women’s hand!